When tests turn into a psychological burden… how do we ease the burden on our children?

As the exam season approaches, the features of many homes change, and tension increases, feelings of anxiety rise, and children feel that they are facing a battle that determines their value, success, and future, while the truth is that exams are a stage of learning and life, and in light of this pressure, some may forget that our children not only need to study, but also to have reassurance, psychological support, and a feeling of security.

There are families that link love with grades, and success with perfection, so daily conversations turn into orders, comparisons, and constant pressure, while the child lives internally for fear of failure more than his desire for success.

From a psychological standpoint, excessive stress weakens the ability to understand and remember, and comparison between children instills a feeling of inferiority within them. Therefore, what children need most in this period is a balance between follow-up and containment, and between encouragement and alleviating pressure.

In the arms of a conscious family, the testing season turns from a source of fear into an opportunity to build confidence, organize time, and learn to work hard without exhausting myself. Calmness, kind words, prayers, and showing confidence in children have a deeper impact than pressure and screaming.

The children of this generation are experiencing many pressures that we may not see, and therefore they need someone to teach them that true success does not lie only in a test paper, but in their ability to continue, learn, and advance with confidence and reassurance, because a child who feels psychologically safe is more capable of succeeding in life before the tests.

Expert in innovative education and community learning methods.

Dr. Fatima Al Marashdeh