المملكة: The generosity between the habit and the burden … societal calls to break the high costs in marriage

Births and social events are no longer limited to being aspects of joy and uterus, but rather turned to many to a source of concern and social and economic pressure, especially in light of the high costs required by marriage parties and the accompanying banquets.
And between the wave of extravagance that sweeps some families out of pride and “keeping up with people”, and between limited income families, she finds themselves to bear what is not tolerated in order not to be accused of miserliness or default, societal calls are transcended towards adopting new models that redefine generosity with the criteria of wisdom and reason, and put an end to food waste and unnecessary costs, while preserving the spirit of the occasion and its human and religious essence.

New forms of marriages

Abdullah Al -Rayes, Executive Director of the National Development Association in Abdullah Fouad neighborhood, called for adopting the idea of new social models for marriages, maintaining affection and reducing costs, especially in societies that suffer from economic and social pressures.

And that is through some ideas that can support this goal, and call for reducing spending on marriages by focusing on essence instead of manifestations, such as reducing the costs of celebrations and dowry, and contenting with modest family occasions that enhance communication and affection.
He said: To enhance societal awareness, awareness campaigns must be published through the media and social platforms such as social media platforms to highlight the importance of marriage based on understanding and love instead of extravagance, while sharing successful stories for husbands who have adopted simple models.

He added: Community initiatives such as establishing local initiatives, organizing collective weddings with reduced costs, or providing free halls supported by associations or government agencies must be supported, which helps young people to start their lives easily.
It also activates the role of religious and social institutions such as calling for speeches and lectures that encourage facilitated marriage, while emphasizing the human and religious values that urge tolerance and reduce material conditions.

Blinds of Mesra

Among the specialists in environmental affairs, the resulting nurturing, the food waste and its environmental consequences in marriages and occasions has an effect on society and the environment. When we exaggerate the preparation of food on occasions and a large part of it is thrown into waste, we not only waste food, but we carry the environment serious damage.
He continued: It is unfortunate that many social occasions, especially marriage parties, are witnessing aspects of excessive preparation of large quantities of food that exceeds the need of the invitees, which leads to great food waste.
He added: Although generosity is a noble value in our society, excessive food supplies until the surplus of it is prepared is a legal and environmental violation.

He emphasized that the environmental consequences of this waste include every food that is prepared and then threw.
And that this practice contradicts the sustainable development goals, especially those related to preserving resources and reducing food loss excessive food production to cover the demand in occasions contributes to the deterioration of agricultural lands and the consumption of resources in an unnecessary manner.

A yard to boast

Hussein Al -Hajji asked: Is it not wise to redefine generosity to the criteria of reason, not the review? And that the one who pays a simple person for a banquet that exceeds his ability, for fear of stinging stinginess, is the sword of traditions and the obsession of running behind a false social image that does not represent the truth of its owner, but rather represents the dominance of custom on the mind.
Also, not every trip is full of generosity and not every large meal is generous, and it is unfortunate in our society that generosity has been associated with feasts and giving to tables, but when hospitality turns into an arena for boasting and becomes a criterion for integrity, we are in front of a habit that does not honor the guest, but the host is exhausted and the money and awareness are dispelled, and the result is a wasteful, frequent, wasteful and unbearable pressure.

He continued: How painful is that some of the rich people exaggerate extravagance out of boasting, and the most painful to be raised with limited income, so they cost themselves above their energy to be satisfied with custom while they are in their interior they get the pressure of this habit.
He emphasized that extravagance is a reprehensible behavior of a luxurious or simple rich, and we must leave hospitality from the grip of courtesy and ignite in our awareness that generosity does not mean wasting and that respect for grace is better than its stumbling, and that the conscious society is not measured by the size of its dishes but rather the size of its wisdom.
He stressed that the time has come to break the circle of social pressure and liberate generosity from the chains of appearances.

Economic burdens

Social worker, Abd al -Rahman al -Suwailem, stated that there are some social customs and traditions that may burden the families with limited income during the establishment of banquets, which may put them in embarrassment, and cause them economic burdens that exceed their energy.

This may push each other to isolated from their society because they are not able to manage the costs, and in return, we find some well -off falling in extravagance and extravagance, believing that it is a kind of generosity, or for fear of criticizing people if they offer little to their guests.
Hence the importance of observing the circumstances of everyone when providing banquets and celebrating occasions, and reminding that blessings do not last, and that her thanks be in moderation and lack of cost.
He also presented a number of recommendations to reduce this phenomenon, such as the importance of adopting the principle of moderation without costing in establishing banquets and occasions, taking into account the difference in material capabilities between the family’s children and the lack of embarrassment of anyone with any commitment that exceeds its energy, the importance of focusing on the social meaning and the uterus link instead of appearances, and setting a clear compatible mechanism for hospitality that guarantees symbolic participation and acceptable to everyone, spreading a culture of gratitude and economy in it, And stay away from extravagance and pride, and allocate part of efforts to social initiatives that serve the family and increase their cohesion.
D. Khaled Burhan has a number of solutions to hold small or household parties instead of luxury halls and reduce the number of invitees to the party to include only close associates, and to be satisfied with a simple marriage ceremony without a large wedding, and to rely on local or personal services (such as cooking or photographing from knowledge).

In addition to dispensing with costly manifestations such as luxurious gifts, kosha, or exaggerated wedding offers, collective marriage, early planning and the specified budget to avoid random spending, and focus on building marital life instead of one day party.